With the announcement of the “Conscious Uncoupling” of Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin, everyone seems to be asking, “Is that still a divorce?” The word divorce was completely missing from the announcement on Gwyneth’s web site. The answer is, maybe yes and maybe no.
Gwyneth and Chris consciously left their intended course of action ambiguous when they summarized it this way: “It is with hearts full of sadness that we have decided to separate, and we have come to the conclusion that while we love each other very much, we will remain separate.”
Many people get divorced but don’t emotionally uncouple.
Still others unconsciously uncouple, but don’t get divorced.
Conscious Uncoupling is, at the very least, a new age phrase for separating your identities and healing. It is all about reclaiming your identity and your power. Katherine Woodward Thomas teaches a 5 week course in Conscious Uncoupling. On her official web site Katherine says “The Conscious Uncoupling process I will lead you through will also help you step into your highest vision of yourself and of your life, and then into a new, different kind of love – one that is built to last.”
You can check it out further at http://evolvingwisdom.com/consciousuncoupling.
For most couples, the goal of Conscious Uncoupling is divorce, plus healing. It is releasing the pain of the breakup and laying the foundation for a life of strong and healthy co-parenting.
Face it, in the case of Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin, they will be at more than just every major future event in their children’s lives, they will continue to be at many of the major events of each others lives without the children, as long as they live. The worlds of entertainment and music are really pretty small, and both professions have their own great demands. The weight of carrying around the baggage of failed relationships in full public view can be a real crusher.